Nobody finds it pleasant to think that your partner may be cheating on you. We trust her and we love her so much that, sometimes, these feelings blind us so that we cannot realize an almost always evident reality.
However, all this changes when we look at some unusual details that make us start thinking about the worst … does my partner fool me?
For those people who have detected a mysterious behavior in their partner and who believe they are being victims of an infidelity, I bring you these tips to empirically check if your partner is cheating on you.
It is important to say, first of all, that the patterns that we are going to comment on below are usually indicators that your partner deceives you, however, being generalizations, it does not match in 100% of cases.
How to know if my partner cheats on me? Discovering the lie
When a person chooses to fool their partner with another person, it is normal for their behavior to be different. It is not easy to lead a double life, much less if you try to hide it from someone as important and valuable as your current partner can be.
It is the best way to start discovering if you are being the victim of a sentimental deception.
Analyzing their behavior and paying attention to those details that you previously considered unimportant can be vital in your research. Try for a second to think like someone who cheats on your partner: it is logical to expect a distant attitude and it would not be unusual for him not to feel like doing so much with you. Obviously there is already someone with whom he considers better to do them.
It is possible that his mood is not entirely positive and that his behavior becomes irascible, how else could someone who wants to start a new relationship feel but is being held back by you?
It is true that anyone can be going through a bad time and present these symptoms. This does not mean that he is being unfaithful. However, if you think your partner has no reason to have such an abnormal behavior, perhaps you should consider that you are most likely seeing someone else.back to menu ↑
Goodbye to the routine. Your schedule starts to change …
We do not need to be gifted geniuses to realize this. We’ve all seen thousands of movies where this kind of situation appears.
“Lately I have to stay extra hours at work,” “the meeting was longer than I expected” or “next weekend I have to spend it outside” are some of the most used excuses for all liars in the world.
Let’s not get confused, it can happen to anyone one day that they have to stay longer in their jobs, or that a meeting does not end when we had planned, it is even possible that someone has to spend out all weekend … but whenever it is specific facts.
Maybe while you read this article all the pieces of the puzzle begin to fit. First of all, keep calm.
You must continue with your investigation until you have obtained all the evidence that evidences your suspicion. A misstep and it could be you who overdo it wrong.
Control your jealousy and anger, and pay attention to its smell, its clothes, its hairstyle … everything can be a clue to discover if you’re really being unfaithful.back to menu ↑
Changes in bed? Bad news
There are few professionals who say that if the problems begin in bed, there is a related problem outside it.
What are usually the causes of this? In the greatest number of cases it is infidelity.
If your partner was energetic and full of motivation before, but suddenly she is always tired, not wanting to do anything or she doesn’t like what she loved before, maybe because she is having an extramarital affair.
Do not despair: dialogue is usually the best tool to solve this type of conflict. Adopt a mature attitude. Engaging in a conversation and preparing for everything you can hear is the best recommendation.
If you show an attitude of understanding, it will make it easier for him to speak to you with honesty and sincerity, which, after all, is what you are looking for if it were an infidelity.
Your mobile phone has more fun than you
The revolution of smartphones and tablets has made many spend some of their leisure time stuck to their favorite touch screen, and it is more than possible that your partner is one of many who have fun using these devices.
However, it can also be a double-edged sword, and after an appearance of innocence the terrible event of an extramarital affair is hidden.
Do not expect me to receive a call while you are present, but there are a thousand ways to communicate by text.
The essential: do not look at your phone or ask permission to do so. Remember that we want to find out if you lie with another person, but we should not give up our own education or our values.
However, you can analyze their behavior in front of the mobile phone. Subtle movements so that you do not see what appears on your screen or similar clearly indicate that there is something that tries to hide you.back to menu ↑
Infidelity confirmed now what do I do ?!
Once we have discovered and have clear confirmation that our partner is cheating on us, it is natural that we want to know what steps to follow in this unpleasant and stressful situation.
It is important that you talk to your partner as soon as possible and explain the results of your research. Remember that if you have done well, it will be you who has control of the situation, since surely your partner does not expect you to know.
Do not think about taking revenge on your own or adopt a behavior that can leave you as a child and immature person. Relationships as a couple are a matter of adults, and as such, solutions to conflicts that may occur within it must also be.
Adopting a jealous and out of control attitude will not help you at all. Moreover, it will detract from credibility and you will quickly have lost your mind.
Relax and think that when things happen, they happen, and there is no going back. It is best to raise your head and focus on leaving the past where it should: behind.
He may ask you for forgiveness and assure you that he will not do it again. Only you know if it is worth believing, however, if you once did and tried to hide it … what makes you think there will not be a second time?
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